I live in Kansas City, Missouri. I presume all of you know what happened here this weekend. A professional football player fired nine shots into a young women, Kassandra Perkins, his "girlfriend," killing her. In the house at the time, was the football player's mother. In the house was the three month old child of Kassandra Perkins and the professional football player. The professional football player, a murderer, then drove to Arrowhead Stadium where his team, the Chiefs, play. He met the team's GM in the parking lot, told him the police were on the way for him, and that he had killed someone. The GM, Scott Pioli, tried to talk him out of killing himself. The football player wanted to talk to his coach and an assistant coach. Pioli called them, told them what was happening, and they both came out to try and talk the man back from suicide. The football player went ahead and put a bullet in his brain in front of the men.
That's what happened.
Subtract the football element from the picture and you probably would have never heard of any of this. Women are victims of violence from their supposed boyfriends, husbands, fathers, and the like all the time. Women are killed by same all too often. The killing or the murder suicide, as in this case, usually makes the local news one night and that is the last anyone hears of it.
Something is wrong here.
The NFL, that gargantuan paragon of business, said "what the hey," the game must go on...and it did.
The NFL which decided the game should go on has been anything but untouched by domestic violence and violence against women. It isn't like they aren't aware of the "problem" in their business. That they chose to play a football game, 24 hours after one of their personnel killed a young women by firing multiple shots into her young body, and splattered his own blood in the parking lot of his place of work is an obscenity. However we shouldn't really be surprised by the NFL's decision to play on. After all, the fact is, that despite a long history of such violence within their business, the NFL has chosen to do basically NOTHING about it historically, has done nothing to prevent the carnage.
Dr. Jen Gunter, at her blog, reminds us:
Rae Carruth was a wide receiver for the Carolina Panthers when he arranged to have Cherica Adams, who was pregnant with his child, murdered. She initially survived the shooting, was delivered emergently, and her son is now 12-years-old and disabled with cerebral palsy. Ms. Adams later succumbed to the injuries she sustained.
Then there is Warren Moon, with numerous arrests for domestic violence.
And the Miami Dolphins’ Chad Johnson.
I could go on with a list of players arrested for domestic violence during their NFL career or after, but you get the point. I could also add college players, but this post has to have an end.
Earlier this year NFL commissioner Roger Goodell stated he was committed to addressing domestic violence, but changes have yet to be seen. The current system of fines and suspensions is as effective as closing the barn door after the horse has bolted and amounts to nothing worse than a slap on the wrist....
The NFL is the ideal group to get behind domestic violence awareness, but the statement released by NFL spokesman Greg Aiello about the murder of Kassandra Perkins tells me their heads are still firmly in the sand: “Our thoughts and prayers are with the Chiefs and the families and friends of those who lost their lives in this terrible tragedy.”
Lives weren’t lost, a woman was murdered and the murderer killed himself. There’s a difference. But acknowledging that would mean the NFL actually to take a real stand on domestic violence, and they probably won’t unless it affects advertising revenue.
The truth is the way that the NFL treats violence against women is pretty much a mirror the way our entire society treats it. It's a disgrace.
I don't want to hear another person tell us what a great guy this football player always was and how out of character all this was. Not only is whatever this man did with his life prior to Saturday morning of no importance to the woman he murdered, the child he left an orphan, and the others he traumatized, it is, also, of no importance to me.
I have read many good posts and blogs actually about this murder (and some very stupid ones as well). The one I have chosen to post here is from the Edmonton Journal.